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Marriage, it’s very difficult to define word marriage its truly said, ‘marriage is a laddu, a person who eats regrets, who does not also regrets.’ Sometime marriage becomes commitment, sometime love, sometime lust and sometime even disaster. Marriage takes lots of time to grow. Initial years of marriage play most important role in its growth. In these years if two people love, respect and trust each other then whole life they spend peacefully and happily otherwise home become war place and marriage become war.

 Marriage is like a plant it needs rays of trust, water of love, manure of understanding and protection of care and respect. In initial years misunderstanding between couples are common as after engagement they spend their life in air castles they are ready to do anything for each other even they swerve to die for each other. They like each other’s attitude; they never try to find out any faults in each other .life is like heaven. But when they got married situation takes U turn, as now family is also included in their love life. A third party, this can play supportive role or a reason of conflict.

 One partner left her home, her maiden family and come to your home with lots of dreams in her eyes she is new to your home, except husband, everyone is stranger for her. at this time husband role is like bridge between his partner and family if he could make balance between them  then family life runs smoothly  but if husband hides anything related to his family , which effects her life , after sometime when she comes  to know about that then trust and respect for her husband shakes same situation lies with family if husband hides her wife’s  habits  and necessary  things which play important role in her life from family then sometimes unknowingly  they hurt her , and misunderstanding between them take place.

 In this relation it is important that husband behavior should be neutral for both sides of bridge as one small misunderstanding can be a big issue for future and as time passes it is difficult not only to handle but to solve that, both sides’ starts finding faults in each and every matter they never ready to walk together, because of this stress marriage starts ruining. They both start hurting each other. Understanding between them is now zero as husband is not ready to accept his mistake in matter arisen, and wife she is not ready to forgive him and his family for repeated mistakes. If husband walk honestly on this runway then he can handle it easily, he should give equal respect to both sides, he should keep them on same platform  to judge the situation genuinely.

Second reason when married life become hell is one partners hide something from other in their personal life it give wrong intention to other partner suspect take place of love which make their relation hollow.  Doesn’t matter reason behind hiding but he if they trust they should openly share everything weather that is good or bad. They should stand beside each other in each and every situation not in front of each other. one should not scared from situation or reaction of other side, may be scenario looks bed for sometime but result will be definitely good . Trust make their relation more stronger than before.

Third reason behind conflict is their nature, way of thinking, everyone is unique and it is not possible to have similar nature, better half means if one is having  one quality and other don’t then they should balance that by fulfill each other’s place like if one is introvert personality and other is extrovert then extrovert personality should fulfill the place of introvert, Without expecting introvert to change according his or her wishes. One should respect what other is having.  Don’t force to change as force will give birth to rebel. they should not interfere in way of living life as it depends on upbringing except some issue which can harm not only oneself but other partner also like health ,hygiene.

Fourth obstacle which is very common everyone wants space to grow and think this space is necessary to run each and every relation. As for that understanding between two is important they should give and respect each other privacy.

Small choices automatically changes accordingly when love exist in relation. They like to give surprises gifts, which is a way to shower love on darling partner, even they can spend quality time together by going on holidays at place they like. If they color themselves with love and care for each other they will never get bore from marriage, after years their marriage will never get old.


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